Simplicity, Possessions, and Love in Marriage

Here are a few talking points I gave a friend who is getting ready to get married. He asked me how we should handle differences between man and wife(-to-be) in their views on possessions. I reproduce them here, slightly edited and clarified, for your edification (and my
memory!):

  1. Remember that everything given by God is a gift to be enjoyed with thanksgiving through the Word of God and prayer (1 Timothy 4:1-6).
  2. Don’t feel guitly for what you’ve been given – a job, a house, a car, etc. God gave it to you, so use it for His
    purposes.
  3. At the same time, remember that Jesus clearly calls us to a life of simplicity. “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth . . . But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven . . . For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also,” (Matthew
    6:19-21)
  4. Remember that communicating your love for your wife(-to-be) is more important than communicating your hatred for material possessions.
  5. Remember that we must not love this world, nor the things of this world, because they aren’t God and cannot make us happy.
  6. Only God through Christ – not a nicer house or car or china set – can ultimately make you happy.
  7. Remember to give freely of what you have. If you aren’t willing to give out of what you’re getting at your wedding, you love those things too much and in the wrong way.
  8. Remember to give well and often to your wife. Give to encourage her faith, give to make her happy, give to help her make your house a home.
  9. Finally, remember that by God’s powerful grace, He can bring you much closer together in the coming years than you are right now. Be patient, love well, and depend on Him to work in both of your lives.

I’ve been there, I’m still there. Love you, bro.

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About B Treece
loved by God before I ever loved Him, saved by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone by the authority of the Bible alone to the glory of God alone, made to enjoy Him forever, happily married with wonder-filled children.

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